Activist promotes stalking awareness

first_imgSaint Mary’s Belles Against Violence Office (BAVO) hosted Debbie Riddle, who spoke Tuesday evening to promote awareness of stalking. Riddle’s sister Peggy Klinke was stalked by an ex-boyfriend, Patrick Kennedy, who murdered Klinke in 2003. Her murder led to a congressional briefing and declaration of National Stalking Awareness month celebrated every January.Riddle said the highest rates of stalking occurs between the ages of 18-24.“When we surveyed college-age women during a nine-month period, which is one year on a college campus, 13 percent of women surveyed reported being stalked,” Riddle said. “So when you apply those numbers to the Saint Mary’s population of just over 1,500 students, at a rate of 13 percent you would have 197 stalking cases. That’s putting 200 women in this room and labeling them as stalking victims.”Riddle said through her three-year-long relationship with Kennedy, her sister suffered emotional abuse.“The behavior is cyclical,” she said. “Women that are in an abusive relationship sort of learn to know the ebb and flow of this behavior; it is pretty predicable, but sometimes they don’t know what is going to set them off.“This is what Peggy lived with. Patrick was very good at removing Peggy from her social circle.”Riddle said the most critical time for women in abusive relationships is when they decide to leave. She said soon after Peggy left Patrick, he began to stalk her sister.“Basically [victims] are asking, what is my punishment going to be when we walk away from this? What will he do to me?’” Riddle said. “… She called me and she said ‘you are never going to believe this, you know what he is doing to me? He’s stalking me.’ … What he started with was 55-155 text messages, phone calls every single day. This went on for days; she wouldn’t answer her phone, she wouldn’t respond to text messaging. He began to follow her in his truck, sit outside her work, outside her gym.”Riddle said stalking includes noncriminal behaviors such as texting, phone calling, leaving music on someone’s voicemail and more — anything that instills fear in a victim.“The behavior will tend to escalate overtime; it won’t stay consistent,” she said. “It might start out in text messaging and end up in murder.”Riddle said her sister’s habits as she was stalked illustrate the profound psychological toll stalking may take on its victims.“No eating, no sleeping, hyper-vigilant, certainly wouldn’t stand in front of any windows, wouldn’t stand in front of a door, wouldn’t answer the door, wouldn’t answer the phone,” Riddle said. “She was very edgy. It seemed like everything scared her. She was afraid of everything. It was so painful to look at her and really not be able to do a thing for her.”Riddle said even after receiving death threats from Patrick, the police department was reluctant to deal with the case. Riddle shared details about her sister’s final moments spent trapped in her bedroom with her friend Rachel, in a violent confrontation with Patrick.“Peggy knew this was the end, and I think what Peggy felt was, ‘Thank God this is over. Thank God it’s done,’” she said.Riddle said telling her sister’s story helps her own healing process.“I started putting things together, people are coming in and out of the house and I sort of became the spokesperson of our family,” Riddle said. “Every time I told the story, it made my heart heal more and more. I can make the world a safer place for women like you.”Tags: BAVO, Belles Against Violence Office, Debbie Riddle, National Stalking Awareness Month, Stalkinglast_img read more

ND graduate explores dangers, benefits of international service

first_imgDaniella Papi, a 2000 Notre Dame graduate and social entrepreneur, presented a lecture on the importance of language, perspective and learning in the context of international service Thursday night. Part of the Dean’s Fellows speaker series, the talk centered on Papi’s experiences in Cambodia and the lessons and perspectives she obtained from her years of service work.Papi, the founder of the educational travel organization PEPY Tours, said an important step in international service is reframing the language and vocabulary currently used to describe service work. She said words such as “villager,” “aid” and “development” often convey power dynamics and connotations that project an unequal relationship between communities and volunteers.“Our vocabulary needs to change,” Papi said. “If I’m a volunteer and you’re a beneficiary, I’m already in a position of power. Instead of it being, ‘Hi, I’m here to help you, in a language I don’t know, place I don’t know,’ it should be, ‘Hi, I’m here to learn from you.’”Papi said some of the problems within development work stem from the ways we learn about service work. Papi said simplistic fundraising tactics, such as televised pleas for donations, provide the public with the impression that development work has simple solutions to complex problems.“Our fundraising channels actually become our education channels,” she said. “It causes huge problems. … Often times, our efforts become solution-led instead of problem-led.”Papi said a fundamental problem in development work involves believing material agents, such as money or infrastructure, rather than human agents are the solution to development problems. Papi said her time working and serving in Cambodia helped her understand how many of the often simplistic solutions stemmed from a well-intentioned but often misplaced desire to provide a solution without focusing on the particular problem or community.“One of the things that I learned was that we shouldn’t be investing in things; we needed to invest in people,” she said.Papi said in order for more effective leaders to change and engage in meaningful service work, there needs to be a fundamental shift in mindset from intending to save a community towards wanting to learn from it.“The question shouldn’t be, ‘How are you innovating; how are you uniquely solving this world problem?’” she said. “It should be, ‘Who’s shoulders are you standing on? Who has tried to solve this problem before you?’”Papi said in order to take action and learn how to become an agent for service, people must engage in frequent personal development by becoming self-aware, understanding their culture and becoming open to learning. Papi emphasized that engaging in meaningful service work requires recognizing how personal and global development are intertwined.“If we are constantly focusing on ‘saving the world’ as an external things to ourselves, that is what is going to cause problems later on,” she said. “Personal development and global development are entirely interlinked. If we’re not willing to look at ourselves, we’re not going to change the world.”Tags: Danielle Pepi, Dean’s Fellows, International Development, international service, PEPYlast_img read more

Speaker promotes LGBTQ acceptance

first_imgIn October 1998, Judy Shepard’s son Matthew was murdered in a hate crime. 17 years later, Shepard spoke as the keynote speaker for Ally Week 2016 to share a mother’s perspective on hate crimes and prejudice.On Tuesday night, Shepard spoke about the theme of acceptance and how it applies to members of any community that may experience discrimination, not just the LGBTQ community.“This is not just about the LGBTQ community — this is about everybody,” Shepard said. “This is not a new thing. Unfortunately, it’s something we deal with not in a positive way, so what we do now at the Matt Shepard Foundation is promote the idea that we should accept everyone for who they are. Not just members of the [LGBTQ] community, but everybody as fellow human beings because really, at the core of it, we are all the same.”In her victim statement, a statement read to the court by the victim or their loved ones so the court gets to know the victim during a trial, Shepard said she and her family started the Matt Shepard Foundation to solidify her son’s legacy.“While Matt was in the hospital, many people concerned about him began to send money to help defray medical costs,” she said. “As a family, we decided we would rather use that money to make something positive come from something so completely devoid of humanity. We have started the Matthew Shepard Foundation and are hoping that it will be helpful in encouraging acceptance and embracing diversity. It is one way we can honor our son.”Shepard said she does not understand why people struggle or refuse to accept members of the LGBTQ community for who they are.“You don’t tolerate people,” she said. “You accept them because they are who they are. You can’t change who you are. You are who you are, you love who you love and that’s just the way it is. How you choose to live your life is certainly up to you, but you are who you are and the idea that you can change any of that is, in my opinion, absurd.”Shepard said her son’s death was a direct result of the hate that had been normalized in society.“Matt is no longer with us because two men learned that it was okay to hate,” she said. “Somehow, somewhere they received the message that the lives of ‘the others, those people,’ are not as worthy of respect, dignity and honor as the lives of ‘us.’ They were given the impression that society condones or is at least indifferent to violence against ‘the others, the people.’”Even though progress such as the legalization of gay marriage has been made recently, the type of violence and discrimination Matt experienced remains prevalent, Shepard said.“When same-sex marriage became the law of the land — or should I just say when marriage, for everyone, became the law of the land — we began to feel pushback from places that did not want to honor marriage between same-sex couples,” Shepard said. “We’re facing actual, open discrimination now and we’ve taken many, many steps back when we thought we were moving forward … You can still be fired in over half the states for being gay.”Despite the remaining legislation discriminating against the LGBTQ community, Shepard said the 2009 Federal Hate Crimes Prevention Act, which carries Matthew Shepard’s name, offers some hope.“Before, [LGBTQ] was not a protected class and now it is,” Shepard said. “It’s the first time that any federal legislation actually mentions the gay and lesbian community as a protected class. It is also the first time that any legislation is actually progress in the [LGBTQ] community, so this is really a special thing.”Tthe most powerful way to combat this discrimination is through education, Shepard said.“We’ve become a SIC society — silent, indifferent and complacent,” she said, “For all those who ask what they can do for Matt and all the other victims of hate and hate crime, my answer is this: educate, educate, educate … It’s the key. Everything stems from ignorance. Fear, violence [and] hate stem from ignorance.”However, Shepard said no legislation will ever be as effective as sharing a personal story and urged the audience to speak out.“If you tell your story, then other people begin to understand what that story is about,” she said. “No one knows how to help you, no one knows what they can do for you until you share your story. It makes it personal, it makes it real. It’s so much more difficult to hate a person or discriminate against a person than it is against an abstract idea … Storytelling is how we change the world.”Shepard placed an emphasis on the importance of allies also sharing their stories and said she believes her son’s death contributed to expanding the ally community.“If he were here, I’m not really sure where we would be in the land of progress,” Shepard said. “I think what happened to Matt woke up the straight world about what’s going on to the gay community. Of all the mail we received, easily over half was from the straight community.”Shepard said her and her husband’s work as allies is their attempt to carry on Matt’s work for him.“Dennis [Shepard] and I feel like we are doing what Matt would be doing if he were still here,” she said. “If Matt were still with us, if what happened to him had not happened, then he would be doing this work … I would not be here, you all would not know who I am — it would be Matt that would be here, and that would be just fine with me.”Tags: acceptance, allies, Death, Judy Shepard, LGBTQ, Matthew Shepard Foundationlast_img read more

McGavick-Gayheart ticket to forfeit 12 percent of votes following Judicial Council sanction

first_imgUpdated Saturday at 1:53 p.m.The McGavick-Gayheart ticket will be required to forfeit 12 percent of the votes cast for it during Friday’s student government presidential runoff election, Judicial Council announced in a press release Friday morning.According to the release, juniors Gates McGavick and Corey Gayheart were “found to have supporters releasing confidential information from previous Judicial Council allegation hearings, as well as engaging in a continued pattern of unethical behavior,” which violated Judicial Council’s Election Regulations and Sections 13.4(e), 17.1(g) and 17.1(h) of the Student Union Constitution.The aspect of the Election Regulations the ticket violated, the release said, mandates that candidates are “responsible for [their] actions as well as the actions of [their] supporters.” Section 13.4(e) of the Student Union Constitution states that, aside from information included in Judicial Council press releases, “all other information pertaining to hearings and appeals shall be considered confidential.”Section 17.1(g), another section the ticket was found to have violated, reads, “Candidates may not be involved in or instruct others to engage in any unethical behavior as detailed in 17.1(h).” Section 17.1(h), the final section Judicial Council found the ticket to have violated, states that “Candidates are expected to behave ethically at all times” and states that examples of unethical behavior are “monopolization of limited bulletin board space, covering or defaming of any other candidates’ posters, insulting or defaming other candidates and harassment or misconduct toward any election officials.”According to the press release, “Judicial Council will not release the election results while there are pending allegations and appeals,” in accordance with Section 17.1(m) of the Student Union Constitution.“Our team is very disappointed in Judicial Council’s decision,” McGavick said in a statement emailed to The Observer. “We respect the confidentiality of the process and, as such, can’t share anything about the content of the politically motivated allegations. We wish we could, however, because they read like a bad episode of ‘House of Cards.’ We will be appealing the decision in the senate.”Senate called an emergency meeting to hear the McGavick-Gayheart ticket’s appeal Saturday afternoon, but a quorum was not met at the time the meeting started. As a result, the appeal was not heard, and the Election Committee’s decision of a 12 percent forfeiture of votes stood.This is the fifth instance of sanctions issued by Judicial Council in this year’s election, including one that requires the Kruszewski-Dunbar ticket to forfeit 10 percent of votes it receives in Friday’s runoff election.With the forfeitures in place for both tickets in Friday’s runoff election, it is possible that neither ticket receives a majority of votes to be declared winner. Should that be the case, the election will go to an electoral college system that is currently in place in the event of a tie, senior and Judicial Council president Matt Ross said, as there is currently no procedure in place for the event that neither ticket receives a majority in a two-ticket race.“What happens is, I have to breakdown the votes from [Friday], in terms of senate constituencies — that’s the term that the constitution uses — and I will then read off the votes based on senate constituency,” Ross said. “So … it basically turns into an electoral college, and then count the votes. Whoever wins, wins.”Tags: 2018 student government election, Judicial Council, sanctions, Student governmentlast_img read more

Don’t Think She’s Not! Real Housewives of Atlanta’s Kandi Burruss Joins Off-Broadway’s NEWsical the Musical

first_img View Comments Christine Pedi NEWSical the Musical is a forever changing, complexly un-sanitized musical mockery of all the news that’s fit to spoof. NEWSical sets all of today’s biggest pop culture headlines to music, including news about Honey Boo Boo, Paula Deen, Anthony Weiner, A-Rod, Kim and Kanye’s baby North West and more. Off-Broadway is getting Kandi Koated. Sassy Real Housewives of Atlanta star and Grammy-winning singer-songwriter Kandi Burruss joins the cast of off-Broadway comedy NEWSical the Musical beginning January 13.  The housewife will play in the zany show through January 26 at the Kirk Theatre. Star Files Show Closed This production ended its run on June 17, 2019center_img Created by Rick Crom and directed by Mark Waldrop, NEWSical also currently features Christine Pedi, Michael West, Susan Mosher and Tommy Walker. In addition to appearing on Bravo’s Real Housewives of Atlanta, Burruss was a member of the multi-platinum-selling R&B group Xscape. She has written and produced hits for Alicia Keys, Mariah Carey and Pink. She is also the writer of Destiny’s Child songs “Bug A Boo” and “Bills, Bills, Bills.” She won a Grammy Award for TLC’s “No Scrubs,” and was the first African-American woman to win ASCAP’s Songwriter of the Year award. Related Shows Newsical The Musicallast_img read more

Barbra Streisand Fights Back Over The Normal Heart

first_img The Normal Heart takes a look at the challenges in trying to raise awareness during the early days of the AIDS crisis in New York City. The made-for-TV movie features stars including Mark Ruffalo, Julia Roberts, Matt Bomer, Taylor Kitsch, Jim Parsons, Joe Mantello, Denis O’Hare and Jonathan Groff. View Comments While we prep our DVRs for the May 25 premiere of Ryan Murphy’s HBO adaptation of Larry Kramer’s Tony-winning drama The Normal Heart, there’s one stage and screen icon that has something to say, first. Barbra Streisand released a statement to the Hollywood Reporter in response to a 2012 email from Kramer to Streisand that went public, which accused her of not having “quite the same burning passion to make it as you always claim.” Streisand was the first filmmaker to discuss a screen adaptation with Kramer, having held an option on the project for ten years following the play’s 1985 premiere and championing it even when she no longer held the rights. “I tried very hard to get it made,” said Streisand. “In the press, Larry kept speaking out against me. But I think it’s unfair to keep blaming me for the movie not getting made. I worked on it for 25 years, without pay.” Despite all that’s occurred, the Oscar winner reveals: “I’m glad it’s finally here.”last_img read more

Andrew Rannells & Lena Hall Go Glam in New Hedwig Portrait from Squigs

first_img Lena Hall Show Closed This production ended its run on Sept. 13, 2015 The Tony-winning revival of Hedwig and the Angry Inch continues to tear down walls at the Belasco Theatre, but there’s a new sugar daddy satisfying our sweet tooth: stage and screen star Andrew Rannells. Resident Artist Justin “Squigs” Robertson stopped by a recent performance to catch the Tony nominee wigging out, and penned this sketch of the new star alongside Tony winner Lena Hall as Yitzhak. Take a look out Squigs’ latest work of art, then catch Rannells and Hall for yourself in Hedwig and the Angry Inch at the Belasco Theatre. Star Files Hedwig and the Angry Inch View Comments Related Shows Andrew Rannells About the Artist: With a desire to celebrate the magic of live theater and those who create it, and with a deep reverence for such touchstones as the work of Al Hirschfeld and the wall at Sardi’s, Squigs is happy and grateful to be among those carrying on the traditions where theater and caricature meet. He was born and raised in Oregon, lived in Los Angeles for quite a long time and now calls New York City his home.last_img read more

Ring in the New Year With Laura Benanti at 54 Below

first_img Star Files We can’t think of anyone we’d rather sing “Auld Lang Syne” with! Laura Benanti will ring in the new year with a new show at 54 Below. The Tony winner and Twitter queen will return to the Times Square hotspot on December 31, along with composer and music director Todd Almond.Benanti stole the show last Christmas as the Baroness in The Sound of Music Live! and is currently appearing on Nashville. She won her Tony for the role of Gypsy Rose Lee in the musical Gypsy. Her additional Broadway credits include The Sound of Music, Swing!, Into the Woods, Nine, The Wedding Singer, In the Next Room and Women on the Verge of a Nervous Breakdown.Check out Benanti’s recent appearance on Show People with Paul Wontorek here. View Commentscenter_img Laura Benantilast_img read more

Angel Reapers Will Extend Off-Broadway

first_img Angel Reapers Show Closed This production ended its run on March 20, 2016 Related Shows View Commentscenter_img Martha Clarke Martha Clarke and Alfred Uhry’s Angel Reapers will extend off-Broadway through March 20; it had previously been set to shutter on March 13. The production began previews on February 2 and will officially open on February 22 in The Romulus Linney Courtyard Theatre at The Pershing Square Signature Center.Directed and choreographed by Clarke, the show features traditional Shaker songs and a mix of modern dance and actual Shaker movements. Angel Reapers follows the Shakers, an early American religious sect, which sought to connect with God through ecstatic ritual and strict celibacy. While the congregants strive desperately to maintain divine purity, the needs of the flesh threaten to take hold.The cast includes Sophie Bortolussi, Nicholas Bruder, Asli Bulbul, Lindsey Dietz Marchant, Ingrid Kapteyn, Rico Lebron, Gabrielle Malone, Sally Murphy, Matthew Oaks, Andrew Robinson and yon tande.last_img read more

Hamilton Director Thomas Kail on Those 16 Tony Nods

first_img Related Shows from $149.00 View Comments Hamiltoncenter_img History (and anyone who can manage to get a ticket) has its eyes on the Thomas Kail-helmed hit Hamilton, which garnered 16 Tony nominations on May 3. One went to creator and title star Lin-Manuel Miranda’s right hand man Kail, who also directed In the Heights. The two-time Tony nominee appeared on Late Night with Seth Meyers on May 4 to react to the record-breaking number of Tony nods. “This is a time of the year when so many Broadway shows have attention on them, so the fact that people recognize the work of our designers and our actors is incredibly moving…It was a remarkable day.” Don’t wait for it—watch the video below! Thomas Kaillast_img read more